We’ve all heard the horror stories of divorces lasting for years, and everyone being mad about the final outcome. By the end the money is drained, and the parents will never be able to cooperatively co-parent again. The children are left with a destroyed family who will never be able to work together again.
What if I told you that there was a way to get a divorce, or allocate parental responsibilities when parents were not married, where you came away from the experience with better communication skills, knowledge about your financial future, and the ability to be cooperative co-parents? You might not believe, me but it is true. If that is your goal, then a collaborative divorce may be best for your family.
Collaborative family law is when both parties agree that they will not go to court. They both hire specially trained attorneys who help them come to agreements outside of the court process. This means that the spouses are working together to reach a common goal. They are not fighting against each other in a battle to “win” something that cannot be won. It also has the benefit that all of the family’s dirty laundry is not waived about in open court where the public can gain access to the information.
A team of professionals helps the spouses in this type of divorce. Each person has their own attorney, and then they also have a Collaborative Divorce Facilitator (a CDF), and a financial professional (FP). While it may seem like a lot of professionals around the table, the cost is actually comparable, or possibly less, than a traditional litigated divorce.
After agreeing to begin a collaborative divorce, the spouses will have a series of meetings. Some will be with all the professionals and the spouses in the room. Some will be with just the spouses and the neutrals (the CDF or the FP). And some will be with one spouse and each of the neutrals. The process is tailored to each family and each situation as it arises. We will work with you over many months, until we are able to come to a final agreement. Once we reach that agreement, only the final agreement will be filed with the Court. After 91 days, the Court will approve the final agreement, and the divorce will be final.
If you are interested in a collaborative divorce, please contact me. For more information, you can also go to these sites:
“I just want to say I feel I am in very good hands with you Meggin. I appreciate you taking the time to hear my concerns and thoughts as we move forward. This was not my past experience with other attorneys and I am very thankful to be working with you.” –Father in Douglas County